Setting goals is one thing… How to actually ACCOMPLISH your goals is a WHOLE OTHER THING.
One time I wanted to be a missionary. Live a life of singleness and travel the world serving and helping others. I use to want to be a stay-at-home mom and have 30 babies. I’ve wanted to be a CEO of some big company. I actually worked towards becoming a therapist for a children’s oncology hospital. I use to dream of becoming a psychologist and helping people grow. I’ve always wanted to change the world! Whether it was owning my own business. Being an actress, a speaker, a preacher, a teacher…. I wanted to do something big.
I’ve always been a dreamer. I’ve had a million good ideas and had a hard time choosing which one to bring to life. I would finally decide on a dream and then I would hustle, bringing this dream to life! But it would always fail. I either wouldn’t finish or I would get so far and become bored and realize I didn’t if know if this was something I actually wanted in the first place.
I’ve been this way from the time I was little (ballet, gymnastics, cheerleading, veterinarian, stay-at-home mom, business woman, actress, singer, preacher, etc.). And frankly, I’m still this way now (photography, videography, podcast, writer, speaker, influencer, etc.)
So I sat down to figure out why sometimes I could finish things and sometimes I couldn’t, here’s what I found.
In order to accomplish your goals… they must first be REAL goals.
The reason some of my former attempts were total crash and burns was because they were dreams, NOT goals! Dave Ramsey says that goals are “visions and dreams with work clothes on.” Dreams are when we have an exciting vision. An idea that lights our soul on fire. But setting goals is when we actually take a dream or idea and make it actionable. We sit down and actually figure out what steps are required to make it happen.
So, as I learned to turn my dreams into goals I’ve learned how to turn hustle into actually productive hustle. I’ve worked with purpose and accomplished the things that I set out to do. And Now I’m going to help you do the same thing!
What category does your goal fall under:
Odds are… as you look at these you’ll notice 2-3 areas that you’re really good as well as a couple of areas that you almost HATE. For example… I am REALLY good at the career area, the financial area, and the spiritual/intellectual area…. but frankly… I am not naturally good at the social area. I tend to put friendships and relationships in general on the back burner. Which means I have terrible work life balance. So if good work/life balance is what i’m after… then the next step is to turn it into an actual goal. Because, again, these are not actual goals:
So now we’re going to take your dream or desire and turn it into an actual goal by using the S.M.A.R.T. method.
S.M.A.R.T. is a method developed by George Doran for us to accomplish our goals. Each letter stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-based. So if my vision, dream, or idea is to have better work life balance… we are now going to make it a real goal….
Here’s the deal… Goals are hard. They are. They challenge us sometimes physically, mentally, spiritually, intellectually, & emotionally. That’s because when we are working towards a goal… WE ARE WORKING AT SOMETHING WE SUCK AT! But really… the reason I have to set a goal about work life balance is because I SUCK at work life balance.
And when we do things that we suck at…. it’s REALLY hard to keep going when things get tough (which they always do). But here’s the deal… growth is painful, but what’s even MORE painful is never growing at all. Forcing ourselves to grow provides us with clarity about who we are and what we want, it sharpens the things we are already good at, it makes us live more intentionally, it provides greater satisfaction, it provides healing, confidence and endurance.
Growth and learning should always take place in the context of community. Make sure you tell someone and let them walk in this journey with you. First, we all perform better when we feel like people are watching. Second, they will give us honest feedback (push us or empathize with us when we need it). Which brings me to the person you pick.
When selecting an accountability partner, make sure the person you pick is someone you will listen to and respect. Someone who is understanding but who also knows how to push you and challenge you when you need it. Also, ensure that it’s someone that you are able to take criticism from. For example, if you are someone who in general takes things more personally or is easily offended. Maybe don’t ask you husband or your best friend to be your accountability partner. 😉
With every mini milestone that you make… CELEBRATE! Make a post on Facebook or Instagram, put a dollar in a jar that you get to spend when you meet your goal, do something to reward yourself since goals sometimes take a long time to achieve and delayed gratification is rough!
Alright! Happy 2020 folks! Let me know your goals in the comments!
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